Loving myself is not something that comes naturally. Each morning when I wake up, the first thought that usually comes to my mind is negative. I don’t know why this happens it just does. I am programmed to be a negative Nelly. I have to lay in bed with my eyes closed and refocus my thoughts on something positive before my feet even hit the floor. This is the first act of love that I do for myself each day.
Self-love in my opinion is the most important type of love. To increase my self-esteem, I have to do things that feed my well-being. Feeling good about myself goes hand in hand with love. Nurturing the love that I have for myself is done through surrendering each day, eating as healthy as possible (while still indulging from time to time), exercising (even when I don’t want to), listening to my inner voice who usually knows what she is talking about, and helping others.
I recently read a line in the Narcotics Anonymous book, It Works How and Why, that resonated with me, “Helping others is perhaps the highest aspiration of the human heart…” However, if I don’t take steps to take care of me, then I don’t have the energy, patience, or tolerance to be available for others. For me, being present to support another human being gives me the greatest sense of worth.
Maybe it sounds cliché but the Beatles said it best, all you need is love.