So, I did't know how much anger and resentment I had towards other people until I did my fourth and fifth steps with my sponsor. He told me it's time to forgive everybody on my list. I asked him, "How am I supposed to forgive people on my list?" And he said, "Thuan, forgiveness isn't about telling the other person that what they've done to you is okay. What it's saying is that what you've done to me can't hurt me anymore because I'm going to forgive you. I'm going to let it go and I'm going to move on with my life." So, forgiveness isn't for the other person. It's for me, so that I can move on with my life. The other person may not deserve forgiveness but I deserve to move on with my life. And that's why forgiveness is so important. Forgiveness is something that we give to ourselves. It's a gift.
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