How to Support Your Loved One During the Holidays: Communication, Boundaries, and More

The holiday season is a time for joy, family gatherings, and traditions. However, for individuals who are staying in a rehabilitation facility or in early recovery, this period may be filled with emotional challenges. Increased pressure from family expectations, social triggers, and lack of routine can lead to feelings of isolation and risk of relapse. As a loved one, there are ways to support your son, daughter, or partner in recovery so you can all have a safe and enjoyable holiday.

This article offers guidance on supporting your loved one in treatment during the holidays. We’ll delve into the importance of their continued participation, discuss establishing healthy boundaries, and how to take care of yourself.

Understanding the Importance of Staying in Treatment

During the holiday season, statistics show a rise in “Against Staff Advice” (ASA) discharges from treatment centers. This can be attributed to factors such as holiday nostalgia, pressure from family gatherings, and exposure to potential triggers. However, remaining in inpatient treatment offers a secure and supportive environment with 24/7 care, which is essential for sustained progress. The structure and stability provided by the program during this emotionally charged time allow your loved one to focus on recovery without facing external pressures that could jeopardize their journey.

Establishing Healthy Boundaries

Setting clear boundaries reinforces the importance of your loved one’s commitment to treatment. Communicate your unwavering support for their recovery and the value of their continued participation in the program. While acknowledging the difficulty of the season, focus on the positive aspects of treatment. Set firm boundaries around conversations about discharge, emphasizing your faith in their progress and the potential setbacks a premature exit could create.

Providing Support for Yourself

Supporting a loved one in treatment can be emotionally draining, especially during the holidays. It’s crucial to prioritize your own well-being. Consider attending family support groups or workshops offered by Mountainside. These resources provide a safe space to connect with others facing similar challenges, fostering a sense of community and offering valuable coping strategies. As the holidays can already be a hectic time, it’s important to practice self-compassion and establish personal boundaries that make you feel good.

Finally, adjust your expectations for the season, prioritizing your loved one’s health above traditional holiday rituals. You can share in the festivities with other family members and friends and remind yourself you can spend future holidays with your loved one after treatment.

Communication Tips

Words hold tremendous power in recovery support. Utilize communication that encourages and reinforces your loved one’s progress. Phrases like “I’m proud of your commitment to recovery” demonstrate your unwavering belief in their ability to heal. You should try to avoid statements that could lead to feelings of guilt or pressure, such as “Can’t you come home just for a day?” Encouraging phrases reinforce the importance of treatment and respect their dedication to long-term success.

Why Remaining in Treatment During the Holidays is Crucial

The holiday season often brings with it a multitude of triggers. Family gatherings, social expectations, and increased availability of alcohol and other substances can pose a significant challenge to individuals in recovery. Inpatient treatment provides a safe and stable space to avoid distractions, minimize triggers, and focus on healing. Encourage your loved one to view treatment as a sanctuary from the holiday pressures, a refuge that offers the stability and security essential for long-term recovery.

By understanding the importance of treatment, setting healthy boundaries, prioritizing your well-being, and utilizing effective communication, you can show unwavering support for your loved one during this period. Remember, their well-being is paramount, and your commitment to their recovery is an invaluable part of their journey.

Extra Support and Mountainside Community Events

For family members who need extra support and community during the holidays, Mountainside offers free virtual support groups open to the community.

• Family and Friends: Wednesdays, 6:30pm-8:00pm
• Partners and Spouses: Every First and Third Thursday of the month, 6:30pm-8:00pm

Visit www.mountainside.com/support-groups/ for more information.

Mountainside is also hosting an in-person holiday family wellness workshop on December 11, 2024, at our Mountainside Wilton location. Our Family Wellness team will discuss family systems and tips to take care of yourself during the holiday season. We would love to see you there! Please sign up here.